Being a woman who’s been married for 17 years this September, I guess I have some experience in the love department. I am not claiming to be an expert or to have a perfect marriage. I just have one that works. “Why is that?”
I recently pondered this question after recently spending an evening with a few friends. What I learned from my pondering is that naturally certain things just go together…..like peanut butter & jelly, clam cakes & chowder and macaroni & meatballs. You can’t necessarily explain why they do….they just do.
I believe the same is true in love……you can’t always explain why two people belong together, they just do. It is not because they are the same. It is because they just go together. They compliment each other. Having a ‘perfect marriage’ or relationship doesn’t mean copying someone else’s marriage plan or doing the same things others do. What works for one doesn’t necessarily work for all. To have success and happiness with love, you have to feel that the other person compliments your ways and you compliment theirs. Just like your fashion accessories don’t have to match, but should co-ordinate to your outfit, your partner should compliment your life and the relationship should feel natural and comfortable.
So, after all these years, I can honestly say that I have made a love connection. My recommendation, if you’re trying to make one, don’t force anything. Sometimes two things just don’t go together. Trust that you will instinctively feel if it is right. And if you’re already in a love relationship, be happy that what you have works. Like two peas in pod; you’re not exactly the same, just choosing to be together, side by side.